6 Tips to Becoming a Pronoun Pro
Everyone has pronouns and learning to properly use them is easy! Yet at Canvas, we know that people are still nervous about making mistakes. We developed 6 easy tips to support you in your journey to becoming a pronoun pro!
Assuming pronouns often leads to mistakes.
Beginning at childhood we tend to develop biases, look for patterns, and naturally wish to categorize the world around us. These biases are so deeply ingrained in our society that many people would feel confident ascribing pronouns to even newborn babies just based on a momentary glance. The problem with this developed shorthand of categorizing individuals into assumed genders and pronouns is that we can be led astray based on our bias. Remember, we cannot know someone’s pronouns just by looking at them, and when meeting new people it’s best to challenge our own assumptions.
Ask, Don’t Tell
If we know we shouldn’t assume the pronouns of others, how will we know which ones they use? Asking of course! Sometimes people feel shy or awkward asking the pronouns of others, but the more times you do it the more natural it will be. The small action of asking before assuming can go a long way.
Embrace Your Own Pronouns!
Make it a habit to introduce yourself with your pronouns in various settings, such as meetings, workshops, or social gatherings. This practice not only normalizes the sharing of pronouns but also creates a more inclusive environment where individuals feel comfortable expressing their identities. Encourage others to share their pronouns as well, but always respect their choice if they prefer not to disclose.
Making Mistakes
Everybody makes mistakes! When you accidentally use the wrong pronoun, quickly correct yourself and apologize. Some people might impulsively begin profusely apologizing, but this can put the other person in an uncomfortable position to comfort them. Rather, it's more polite to quickly correct yourself, move on and try harder in the future!
Respect People’s Privacy
It's crucial to respect the privacy of individuals regarding their pronouns. Avoid disclosing someone's pronouns without their consent, especially in situations where it may not be relevant or necessary. Similarly, if you become aware of someone's pronouns through a private conversation, refrain from sharing that information with others unless given permission.
Language evolves as we evolve.
In English, "they" has been used historically as a singular pronoun in cases where the gender of the person is unspecified or when referring to a hypothetical or generic individual. Using "they" as a singular pronoun acknowledges and respects the diversity of gender identities beyond traditional binary categories. If you do not know a person’s pronouns, use “they” to refer to them. People may also use pronouns you haven’t heard before.
Everyone knows themselves best!
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